sagging cheeks

As a child, life can feel like a challenge because you simply lack the ability to do what you want. Life, it feels, is all about growing up when you are a young child. You dream of being a teenager. And when you become a teenager, you long to be an adult so you can do your own thing. Get away from your parents. Make your own rules. Go to the places you want. Get a job. Have your own money. Build a life, a career, a family.

What nobody tells you, though, is that these are the years of your life that you will look back on for far longer than they existed.

Life up until, for most people, the ages of 16-21 can feel like being trapped in a cage. Authority figures always answer in the negative; opportunities lost that you will never see again. For many people, these years are spent simply wishing they could ‘skip to the good part’ of being an adult.

When you reach later life, though, and you realise just how intense life is (and the reality of the responsibilities of adulthood) you soon long for those moments of carefree bliss. For many of us, though, it is not just the ability to go back to the ‘good old days’ when life was less risk and reward.

For many, it is going back to how you once looked. Sadly, many get caught up in perpetual pursuit of how they once looked.

The signs of aging tell a story

We look back on photos of ourselves in our vigorous youth and think ‘God, why can’t we look like that now?’

You look in the mirror and you see age. You see things like sagging cheeks, ‘crows feet’, ‘age lines’ and other such derogatory terms for the reality of life. Many reach their thirties, forties, and beyond, and start to try to look younger than they are. They want to cheat time, regretting those valuable and enjoyable days spent as a youth. They long for their return, knowing they can never go back and do it over again.

However, while it might seem like a good idea to get treatment on those sagging cheeks, should you? We would say no.

Aging can be scary, and showing signs of your age is scarier still. When that happens, though, you should stop looking to repeat what has already happened. Instead, you should look to learn from the past. Think back to all of the moments in your life that led you to where you are today.

Things like academic choices, social circles, personal relationships, and financial decisions. Think about the moments where you succeeded, and the moments you failed. Think about what you learned through the good, the bad, and the in-between. Look back closely, with pride. Why? Because your face – your ‘sagged cheeks’ tell your story. They give so many young people, the person you long to be again, the one thing they longed for: wisdom, authority, and control.

Your life is worth validating through your looks

When you go through a tough period in life, it is easy to try and cover it all up. Say you have just come out of a bad relationship, and you are healing. Do you introduce yourself to new people – especially new romantic interests – by telling them you are currently still challenged from a previous break-up? No!

You tell them the opposite. Why? Because we like to hide how we really feel, and we love to make clear that we are problem-free. Even when we are not (especially when we are not). Sadly, many take the same approach with their physical appearance.

Instead of showing that you are someone who has seen things, been places, and achieved success in life, you try to hide it. You try to look twenty-five whilst being far beyond that age. Your wrinkles, sagging cheeks etc. – all of these attributes that we now deem as ‘ugly’ or unwanted – are the very signs that you are someone worth talking to.

Meet an older individual who has undergone plastic surgeries and wears clothes their children should be; they tend to be people trying to run away from who they truly are. Speak to someone with clear signs of experience, though, and they could impart wisdom, insight, and ideas that you would never have thought of yourself.

Embrace who you are – yesterday, today, and tomorrow

When you were young, you respected, admired, and looked to those with experience for help. For answers. For wisdom. You knew they had that experience because they not only told you, but they also showed you how they looked. Now you are in the position that the people you respected once were – why would you hide that fact?

Never try to hide your story, your experience, and your wisdom from others. By doing so, you negate your own life story, and you also make it harder for others to see the respectable and experienced person you are.

Embrace your sagging cheeks, your age spots, and your wrinkles: they tell a story of a life that was worth living. If you could speak to your older self as a rebellious youth once again, you would want to know your story. Why deny it now you have reached the age to tell it?